Dear Now What:
My boyfriend and I have been together almost five years, and he is my best friend. I thought I knew almost everything about him until we got super drunk together, and he told me that he is also attracted to men. Neither of us has ever been with anyone else, and I am worried that he will not be satisfied in a heterosexual relationship. Since he told me it has been totally awkward, and I feel like he is waiting for me to say something. But what can I say? What if he is gay? I love him and want him to be happy; I wouldn't want him to deny his true self out of loyalty to me. Now what?
-Bisexual Boyfriend, North Carolina
Dear Bisexual Boyfriend,
You have a couple of options in dealing with this delicate situation. You can simply pretend the conversation never happened, and wait for his next move. I do not recommend this option because it will just prolong the inevitable confrontation and in the meantime you will feel miserable and anxious.
The other option is to talk to him directly. Before you talk to him make a list of all the issues and questions you have. It seems as though you are a very compassionate person because in the midst of all this you are ultimately concerned with his well-being. When you talk to him, keep it simple. You might say: I am uncertain about what you meant when you told me you are bisexual. Does this mean you feel a void in our relationship? Are you interested in exploring you bisexuality? Where do we stand? I care about your happiness and would not want you to go with your heart if you aren't fulfilled. Perhaps its not a big deal and you will be happy to stay with me. Either way I need to know.
And so Miss Bisexual Boyfriend, whatever happens your big heart will bring happiness in your life.
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